You’ve met a person. Interesting, attractive and trustworthy enough to be naked in front of him in every sense, physically and emotionally. It doesn’t matter if you’ve known each other for a day or several months, but since the sexual interaction between you is voluntary and pleasurable, it means you don’t expect cheating. However, it happens that there is a problem. And you get a red flag: something inappropriate is going on for you, although it’s not immediately clear how critical this is for personal safety and for the relationship in general.
This is the same red flag – behavior or words that offend or alarm. Its faithful companion is self-doubt. After all, it is hard to imagine that a person you like could do something unpleasant intentionally. Therefore, red flags in relationships have become a popular topic of discussion. You ask questions to close friends and even strangers on social networks, hoping to draw on the experiences of others: Do you think this is normal? Do you think he did this on purpose? Or maybe a person simply does not know that this is not possible? And if you talk about it, he will stop…
In fact, many relationship problems are resolved through direct and respectful conversation. But conversations about sex, physicality, preferences, desirable or unacceptable practices always cause embarrassment. And so does the fear of offending one’s partner or appearing awkward or not relaxed enough in matters of sexuality. These are natural and understandable experiences, but they make us more vulnerable to contrary reactions from our partner, including manipulation.
Let’s imagine that you have worked up the courage to express your discontent, explaining the reasons for your action, reminding him of the agreements and asking him not to do this again. This is what will be a really serious warning sign, or rather, a real warning sign for you to think about your safety.
